When you try to be alone and when you want to live this way it’s not going to happen because at the end you are a human and all you know is you need a companion to depend on, being human it means to be with someone your kind, you made this way to live in a group. We are the social animals we are humans.
What I am trying to say here is no matter how hard you try to not involve with any other human being, but you end up thinking about one and craving for someone, its all happen unknowingly if someone is good with you, helps you, your expectations increases and then you also start to do the same with the person you care for, and now you know you have someone you can rely on.
You know someone who will be always there with you in your happiness and your sadness but then again your companion, you partner get affected by another human and he starts to give priority to them, it is all about priority and efforts, it can be changed at any moment if you get distracted by something and you see yourself not giving time to those people you’ll see they will wait but not long they will move on, and moving on is the best option rather than waiting for the one who doesn’t think about us anymore.
We are humans we expect more from other than ourselves, and then we suffer the more we expect, rather than expecting, if we start to do for them, rather than relying on them if we make them rely on us, you will see your human not going anywhere, that is we call love when you like to do something for someone rather than expecting when you feel happy doing something for the one you love, that’s what our parents do, they just do for us and expect nothing, doing something for us, giving us what we want, and seeing us happy, make them happy than their own need and wishes, they sacrifice a lot, in a process to see you grow.
The same happens with us when we grow-up we hit the puberty we think we are in love with someone we like but we are not its all about hormonal changer and attraction towards other sex when you see you like a girl or a boy you see the feature in them if he/she is fair, healthy, humorous beautiful, or charming and you get attracted to the feature they have, but still, it’s a crush, not a love, you still demand or expect something in return, if you have noticed yourself in teenage or in any relationship it comes to an end because something they expect was not happening if the girl sees there is no future with a guy she uses him and left with family and career excuse and same boys do.
All we see, here people are expecting and wanting something in return, its attraction nothing else, even you see people are there waiting for each other or I can say stuck with each other for years because they feel their future will be safe with them, but the moment they see there is no future together they just get rid of you.
All the love, affection, feelings, and everything you had has become like a dream because the person you were with now changed person with a stone heart and he has everything inside his heart to ignore you, he has every reason with him not be with you because he is done with you because there is no future with you.
There is a saying ‘You’ll know true faces of your people when you are in trouble’ and you see when you needed them most, they run away from you.
When you decide to be with someone you see everything in them, their cast, their skin color, their attitude, their skills, and most important you see how your future looking like when you are with them, and once you are all set-up and agree with yourself that you see everything you are looking for in one person, you want to be with them.
Yes, it’s true because you don’t see here the pleasure by someone else happiness, all you wish for your own, all you demand you happiness, and you expect someone else to work for your happiness, because you, yourself not capable of achieving your dreams and happiness, so here you rely on someone else and it’s a big burden on another one, all I can say you can ask for help but could not demand to fulfill what you wish or dream.
Why you forget being human people have their idea, thoughts, and dreams they want to live, then how can they also carry the burden of your dream and wishes? This happens with girls, not always but most of the time, girls consider themselves so weak that they can’t achieve anything by themselves but there are many examples online, you can see how awesome those girls are doing with their life solely.
I do not agree with this culture, first, get graduate, get a job and marry, have a baby then rise it then save for his future and education and then for your retirement, and once you retired, you see yourself on a deathbed.
This is a selfishness everyone wants someone to love them unconditionally but they are not willing to do the same, and if you are in an illusion that you love someone come out of it, you did not because then you would have not expected in return, and if you are still waiting for someone like stubborn you are just wasting your youth, your time and all the other things you could have discovered.
Wait for no one, live your life, spend your life achieving your dreams, live life the way you want, don’t depend on anyone else, don’t expect too much, and don’t dare to insult love to fulfill your needs from someone else, have a companion you can talk about anything you care and you fear, support each other and live your life with compassion.
Hit hard🙆♀️